I received an email this week from an unhappy lady who knows her partner is drinking too much. He drinks 2 or 3 cans of beer a night minimum, is putting on weight, snores like goodness knows what, frequently falls asleep on the sofa, and suffers heavy hangovers, particularly on weekends.
He has a very good job however and isn’t doing anything out of the ordinary within his friendship group.
Functioning addicts really have to want to change before they can, simply because society sees nothing wrong with behaviours we can keep hidden!
So if you are like my emailer and you know the daily drinking is not right, just take a step back and give yourself all the love and attention you deserve. This isn’t a battle you can win because as far as he’s concerned, he’s in control. It isn’t worth the endless arguments over his choices, and you could drive him to the pub more often (which would cause you worry about how he’s getting home) or worse, drive him to drink in secret.
Keep up the healthy living yourself, and one day he might come to his senses. Find others like you who enjoy doing what you love doing, and find your connections, fun and peace that way. There are plenty of people out there who don’t drink at all, and who agree that daily drinking isn’t a good thing.
It does however remain a personal choice and you don’t get to decide the drinking habits of others…